Evidence illustrates that we incorrectly assume that confidence represents competence. This recognition has manifested as a “fake it until you make it” mindset. If we can just act like we have it all figured out then our colleagues and clients will believe us.
This no longer works. We’re finally more aware of this bias, partly because of recent research, and partly because we’ve been burned by these constituents.
Confidence as competence now surfaces in a new and more helpful manner. Namely, we are more likely to see others as competent when they are comfortable admitting that they don’t know the answer. Further, we see them as more competent when they are proactive enough to explain how they’ll go about figuring it out.
Fake it until you make it is old news. We want people who ask good questions, dig in and do research, and then put it all together.
As I type this post, I’m sitting in an urgent care facility. I’m typing with one hand, which is taking much longer than it should.
I was moving too fast, trying to do too many things at once, and I cut my finger. It’s pretty bad and stitches are inevitable.
A sense of urgency is great. But it’s more efficient and productive to live the motto, OHIO, which stands for “only handle it once.”
We think it will help to move quickly to get more done. But it doesn’t work that way. When we move too fast we make mistakes. Mistakes that take a long time to fix.
It’s important to be present, one task at a time. If you don’t, you might be a writer who has to type with one hand for a few months, or whatever the equivalent is for you.
Time is our most precious resource. And unlike other resources - money, for example - you can’t earn more of it. When it’s gone, it’s gone.
Given that we live in an ever-connected, resource-demanding world, you will forever be sought after by others for your time.
In some cases, it’s your obligation to spend time on things you’ve committed to. But in some cases, you have a choice on how much (and when) to spend time on something. This “must do” versus “nice to do” difference applies to work and non-work.
It’s important to recognize that you are ultimately responsible for protecting that time. Family members, friends, colleagues, supervisors, etc., will forever be vying for your time. It’s up to you, and only you, to fiercely protect it.
By “fierce,” I don’t mean being antagonistic, aggressive, or unkind. What I do mean is being proactive, transparent, and clear. No one can protect your time. Only you can do that. No one understands your obligations, commitments, energy, and goals as well you do.
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